{"id":3912,"date":"2019-01-16T08:00:55","date_gmt":"2019-01-16T06:00:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.dexeus.com\/blog\/present\/y-si-no-puedo-tener-hijos-con-mis-propios-ovulos\/"},"modified":"2019-06-04T10:12:30","modified_gmt":"2019-06-04T08:12:30","slug":"what-if-cant-have-children-with-my-own-ovules","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.dexeus.com\/blog\/en\/latest\/what-if-cant-have-children-with-my-own-ovules\/","title":{"rendered":"What if I can\u2019t have children with my own ovules?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Doubts are completely normal. And they usually go together with other emotions: sadness, frustration, rejection, guilt, fear, disappointment, uncertainty… So, whether you decide to go on or not, you must allow you a time to think about it and emotionally prepare yourself, as giving up the idea of having a biological child always involves a loss. That\u2019s why this process is technically called \u201cgenetic grief\u201d.<\/p>\n

In this post,\u00a0Sandra Garc\u00eda Lumbreras<\/a>, responsible for the Psychology Unit at Dexeus Mujer gives us some helpful recommendations:<\/p>\n

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  1. It\u2019s not all about genetics.<\/strong>\u00a0Some studies prove that the environment in which a baby grows up and its experiences influence the genes expression. Moreover, the love it gets, the transmitted values, its education and beliefs define its personality, too.<\/li>\n
  2. Do not postpone the decision.<\/strong>\u00a0It\u2019s important that you and your partner fix a deadline to decide whether going ahead with the donation or not. Generally, between three and four months is considered an adequate period to grieve and make a decision. Delaying the uncertainty situation could increase anxiety, emotional toll and it could affect the couple\u2019s relationship.<\/li>\n
  3. If you\u2019re concerned about it, it is a good sign.<\/strong>\u00a0Asking for psychological support means that you really care about your relationship with your future child. Don\u2019t take it as insecurity about being mother, on the contrary, it emotionally shows maturity.<\/li>\n
  4. Don\u2019t let the situation affect your self-confidence.<\/strong>\u00a0If you can\u2019t have a biological child, this doesn\u2019t mean that you can\u2019t be a good parent and it can\u2019t affect your self-confidence.<\/li>\n
  5. A shared decision.<\/strong>\u00a0If you have a partner, you must approach the donation from a joint point of view and make the decision together.<\/li>\n
  6. Should we tell the child? And the family? When?<\/strong>\u00a0Yes, you should tell the child. The moment will depend on his\/her age and maturity. If he\/she starts asking about where the babies come from, that could be a good moment. Regarding the family, it\u2019s good to share it with them, at least with the closest relatives, so that they could support and accompany you.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

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